Finding Balance In Life
I am the Coach who helps women find the right balance in their lives. The physical-mental-spiritual balance and the family-professional-personal life balance.
So many of my clients come to me seeking this. And I give them the tools, knowledge and support they need to grow, develop and nurture the seeds of wellbeing.
Everyone is seeking balance. Whatever that may mean to each of you. But what is this balance I am talking about?
Teach your body and brain what balance is
This is how I see things, and as I said in other blogs don’t believe me, think for yourself and decide.
We run from one corner to another, always in a rush, always looking at the time and always under some type of pressure. We seldom, if ever, stop to breath and look around.
Some of us seldom pay attention to the world around us and the one within us for longer than a few minutes, if that.
Under these circumstances is it really possible to be or find “balance”?
And are your body and brain able to recognize balance at all?
Teach your body and mind what balance is and how it feels first. How? By doing, throughout your day, small things you qualify in your mind as being balanced: balancing your backpack on both shoulders, balancing your body weight evenly on both your feet when standing, uncross your legs when sitting and place them flat on the ground.
The more you think about balance throughout the day the more balance you will attract in other areas of your life.
It’s the small things that make the difference. It’s the details that we, as society, are failing to observe. And it’s the details that make the whole….always.
Think balance and you will receive balance.
But the reality is…
Philosophy is so easy. Everyone gives wise advice, including myself, and they are all true….in theory. When you actually get to applying them that’s the challenge.
The truth is you will always lose balance. It’s not something new. It’s not a shock to you. When you have an awesome day something happens and throws you off balance.
Some are thrown off balance by something like a sudden rain when they are at the beach. Look at your life. How many times are you thrown off balance?
And how many of these events are actually real enough to be taken seriously?
The reality is that unless you learn to see the other side of the coin you will always feel miserable because there will always be events to throw you of balance.
The other side of the coin I’m talking about is the one that helps you develop further and grow, and grow and grow some more from these unbalances.
Actually balance comes from unbalance. How are you suppose to know what balance it if you never experienced unbalance? It’s like night and day, you see what I mean?
Be grateful for those moment when you feel you lost balance because they guide you to the path of balance. If you learn to see the other side of the coin that is.
As a professional woman do you like to walk through muddy puddles, walk in pouring rain and stay for hours outdoors in the cold winter doing balance exercises? In most cases the answer is no.
All my clients experience mud, rain, cold winds and winters at some point in their training programs with me. Normally they would all pull back and give up their training day because of these obstacles.
Yet, when they train with me they know that everything (particularly breaking the rule of being clean, ha ha) makes them push boundaries for physical and mental growth and development.
It’s unusual, different it’s exciting and exhilarating. It’s liberating.
Being out of their comfort zones makes them grow. You see, after they train with me they feel liberated. This is how some of them describe the experience they have. They see the other side of the coin, the other side of cold, wet, muddy days. The side that makes them grow.
The most recent experience I had myself was yesterday, Saturday the 7th of March.
I competed in Bracknell Legends Shotokan Karate competition. I went there convinced I’d leave with 2 first places.
Instead, I left with 2 third places, a sore eye and a severely sprained middle left finger. It’s all purple and swollen as I type and it makes writing this blog bloody difficult. It’s not fractured though.
Today I went to my regular karate class. And I immediately saw the benefit of the injury and of not using my left hand.
I usually fight with my left leg and hand forward. That’s my strongest, fastest stance. Now I am being forced to change that and use my weakest side of the body. Now I block and attack ONLY with the right hand and arm and legs.
By damaging my left hand I am actually strengthening the weaker side of my body. And that will only make me stronger. Being ambidextrous has many benefits but that’s a topic of another blog.
No matter which example you take, in each of them you see BALANCE. In the first one is balancing the adult and the child.
In the second example you see balance between the left and right side of the body, left and right brain hemisphere, Ying and Yang.
I cannot give you advice through a blog. These things are so individual. I’d need to know more about you and your life and then point the path for you to take.
There is always something that needs balancing or re-balancing in everyone’s life. Because no matter what we do we will always be thrown off balance sooner or later.
What will make you grow is how you interpret these unbalances. How you will grow from them. There is always a way to grow from an unbalance in life.
So are you seeking balance in your life? If you feel what I wrote here is something that resonates with your please email me and let’s talk about it more at email@example.com